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Thursday, November 6, 2014

The horse can only be buggy-whipped so long before it collapses and dies

Once The United States of America is diminished, in all ways economic, geopolitical, and civilized, all the free-ride, free-love, free-everything bennies will begin to disappear, or at least stop being free.

Is that what Americans really want?

The horse can only be buggy-whipped so long before it collapses and dies.

I began asking readers yesterday to really, truly, intelligently educate themselves about Hillary Clinton, her roots in radicalism, her faith in Saul Alinsky, her say-anything-to-get-what-I-want politics, and to really think about the future they really want for this country, and for the world.

This isn't where we usually post about politics, that's Abortion Pundit. But bear with me, there is a point to putting this discussion here instead.

Hillary has a great, long, mouth-flowing history, and it would be a good update for those of you recently educated (high school or college), to do yourself a great service to read up on it. You could start with our several sidebar links at Abortion Pundit under the heading "MORE Hillary Backpedals."

After really educating yourself on Hillary's history (and not just from the media that favors her), I'd ask you just one question:

Is it more important that you can claim to have crowned the presumed first woman President, or more important that you are not among those who have helped destroy this nation and its position of resources for its own people and its strength (read, safety) in the world?

Be careful before you answer. Really read up on Hillary's adoration of "Rules for Radicals", her suppressed thesis on it. Did you know Alinsky, in this book, happily tips his hat to Lucifer, acknowledging and commending him for being "the very first radical" and for "rebelling against the effectively that at least he won his own kingdom"?

In interviews, Alinsky considered himself "short on virtue" and said he'd be happiest in Hell.

Satan? He gives credit to satan, and denies and denounces God? Really? Yes, really.

See Hillary falling in love with the book, with Alinsky's thoughts and calling this radicalism the "fulfillment of Revelation." Ask yourself, does she mean this Revelation? And if so, what precisely is she looking forward to in the "end of the age"?

Ask yourself: if she really has changed and does not now adore all that Alinsky stood for, why won't she come out and repudiate it? She won't. Instead, she and her party bury this information so you won't know her real allegiance is not to alleviating poverty or bettering mankind's plight, but to "rebelling against the establishment", perhaps winning her own queendom, perhaps in the footsteps of her and Alinsky's idol.

Contrast Hillary/Alinsky with one of the staunchest Communists who ever lived, who later became one of the staunchest anti-Communists. I'm just starting to read Whittaker Chambers' "Witness", in which he summed up why he stopped being a radical, a Communist. If you only read the introduction written to his children, some twenty pages short, you may begin to see far too close a parallel to what's happening to this nation:

[Communism's promise] is not new. It is, in fact, man's second oldest faith. Its promise was whispered in the first days of Creation under the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil: "Ye shall be as gods."
The Communist vision is the vision of Man without God. It is the vision of man's mind displacing God as the creative intelligence of the world. It is the vision of man's liberated mind, by the sole force of its rational intelligence, redirecting man's destiny and reorganizing man's life and the world...Communism restores man to his sovereignty by the simple method of denying God.
... without God is just what Communism said he was: the most intelligent of the animals, that man without God is a beast, never more beastly than when he is most intelligent about his beastliness...Man calls it reason and uses it simply to be more beastly than any beast.
Is the U.S. a Communist nation? No. Is about half (or more) of the country thinking and acting precisely as beastly as Communists are described above as doing? Yes:

It's ok to abort pre-born fetuses if we don't want them, and even newborns who were supposed be disposed of before they were born...It's ok to commit suicide in some states...It's ok to let the national government control what health benefits you can afford and when you can have them, and keep from you better benefits by making them impossible to afford or get approved, and in the process worsen the nation's deficit (predicted to Obama's face, before the ACA passed) which only makes our kids and grandkids suffer under the excess burden...It's ok that a chief architect of ObamaCare and a top medical advisor to the White House thinks 75 is a good age to die and that "society...will be better off" if we do (although one Jewish rabbi thinks it's a "less than Jewish" belief to think that)...It's ok to stir up false racist charges against people defending their very lives, thus wrongfully fomenting a hateful splitting of the citizenry, all while not doing anything to focus our help where it really could do some good, with black-on-black violence...It's ok to take everything that other persons have worked hard to earn, and give it to all the everyone elses unwilling to first work hard in school to educate themselves and then to work hard to earn their own keep and their own respect.

The horse can only be buggy-whipped so long before it collapses and dies.

Chambers continues:

One thing most ex-Communists could agree upon: they broke because they wanted to be free...Freedom is a need of the soul, and nothing else. It is in striving tward God that the soul strives continually after a condition of freedom. God alone is the inciter and guarantor of freedom. He is the only guarantor. External freedom is only an aspect of interior freedom. Political freedom, as the Western world has known it, is only a political reading of the Bible. Religion and freedom are indivisible. Without freedom the soul dies. Without the soul, there is no justification for freedom....Hence every sincere break with Communism is a religious experience, though the Communist fail to identify its true nature...His break is the political expression of the perpetual need of the soul whose first faint stirring he has felt within him, years, months or days, before he breaks. A Communist breaks because he must choose at last between irreconcilable opposites-- God or Man, Soul or Mind, Freedom or Communism.

Communism is what happens when, in the name of Mind, men free themselves from God. But its view of God, its knowledge of God, its experience of God, is what alone gives character to a society or a nation, and meaning to its destiny. Its culture, the voice of its character, is merely that view, knowledge, experience, of God, fixed by its most intense spirits in terms intelligible to the mass of men. There has never been a society or nation without God. But history is cluttered with the wreckage of nations that became indifferent to God, and died.

And why does a radical or a Communist decide he "must choose" between God and Man? Because

" night he heard screams."

Chambers wrote of an embarrassed daughter of an ex-Communist, ashamed that her father had broken:
A child of Reason and the 20th century, she knew that there is a logic of the mind. She did not know that the soul has a logic that may be more compelling than the mind's. She did not know at all that she had swept away the logic of the mind, the logic of history, the logic of politics, the myth of the 20th century, with five annihilating words: one night he heard screams.

What Communist has not heard those screams? They come from husbands torn forever from their wives in midnight arrests. They come, muffled, from the execution cellars of the secret police, from the torture chambers of the Lubianka, from all the citadels of terror now stretching from Berlin to Canton. They come from those freight cars loaded with men, women and children, the enemies of the Communist State, locked in, packed in, left on remote sidings to freeze to death at night in the Russian winter. They come from minds driven mad by the horrors of mass starvation ordered and enforced as a policy of the Communist state. They come from the starved skeletons, worked to death, or flogged to death (as an example to others) in the freezing filth of sub-arctic labor camps. They come from children whose parents are suddenly, inexplicably, taken away from them – parents they will never see again.

What Communists has not heard these screams? Execution, says the Communist code, is the highest measure of social protection. What man can call himself a Communist who has not accepted the fact that Terror is an instrument of policy, right if the vision is right, justified by history, enjoined by the balance of forces in the social wars of this century? Those screams have reached every Communist's mind. Usually they stop there. What judge willingly dwells upon the man the laws compel him to condemn to death – the laws of nations or the laws of history?

But one day the Communist really hears those screams. He is going about his routine party tasks. He is lifting a dripping reel of microfilm from a developing tank. He is justifying to a Communist faction in a trade union an extremely unwelcome directive of the Central Committee. He is receiving from a trusted superior an order to go to another country and, in a designated hour, meet a man whose name he will never know, but who will give him a package whose contents he will never learn. Suddenly, there closes around that Communist a separating silence, and in that silence he hears screams.

He hears them for the first time. For they do not merely reach his mind. They pierce beyond. They pierce to his soul. He says to himself, "Those are not the screams of a man in agony. Those are the screams of a soul in agony." He hears them for the first time because a soul in extremity has communicated with that which alone can hear it – another human soul.

Why does the Communist ever hear them? Because in the end there persists in every man, however he may deny it, a scrap of soul. The Communist who suffers this singular experience then says to himself: "What is happening to me? I must be sick." If he does not instantly stifle that scrap of soul, he is lost. If he admits it for a moment, he has admitted that there is something greater than Reason, greater than the logic of the mind, of politics, of history, of economics, which alone justifies the vision.

The bold emphases are mine, but Chambers is still describing, inadvertently, the America of today.

Don't tell me the Democrat Party isn't taking a page from the Terror policy of Communism when it allows Black Panthers with blackjacks visible in their hands to patrol outside voting places to intimidate folks into not coming in to vote unless it's to vote Democrat.

Don't tell me the Democrats, from Obama and Eric Holder on down, aren't trying to have police officers who defended their own lives locked up and sent to prison or worse, the execution chamber, because their attacker died after trying to wrest the cop's gun from him to shoot him with it.

Don't tell me the Democrat Party isn't using "terror as an instrument of policy" when it terrorizes black folks, telling them through campaign material photographs that a vote for a Republican is akin to lynching Obama. (It is jaw-dropping considering the lynchers, the Ku Klux Klan, began as nothing but "Solid South Democrats" and it was Abraham Lincoln, the first "Republican President, who issued the Emancipation Proclamation [and] a Republican-controlled Congress that voted for the 13th Amendment, outlawing slavery.")

Don't tell me the Democrat Party hasn't made itself the Party of sanctioning the silent screams of children being suddenly, inexplicably, taken from their mothers, never to see them, ever.

Don't tell me the Democrat Party and its lapdog mainstream media supporters don't cover it up when Kermit Gosnell is allowed to do what he did, because to stop him would have been to harm legal abortion.

I'm not saying the GOP is perfect. It is far from it. And it has its share of racists. So do the Democrats, on the flip side.

And to be The Party of Death (i.e., the party of abortion) is to have become at least as beastly as those who believed lynching another person was their "right to choose."

And that's what gets us, in the end. All several hundred thousand, maybe millions, of us.

When we women who have aborted our children finally hear our own set of screams, we are driven to our knees and we also suddenly. just. know. how wrong—or how duped—we were. We know now there really is something greater, something more real, than Reason, or the mythical "war on women", or the logic of the mind, or of anything on Earth.

I'm begging the 50% of this nation to stop denying that little scrap of their souls, and to do so before they contribute to the death of this nation.

Whittaker Chambers, an American, knew that this isn't just "being dramatic." He knew it to be the course of history, of life or death, for not just our nation, but each one of us. And he risked his own life, to tell this to us, and to be free himself.

Which of us are willing to really listen?

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Tuesday, November 4, 2014

I'm Sorry For Brittany Maynard, But She Wasn't "Courageous"

Mary Tyler Moore once said, "Pain nourishes courage. You can't be brave if you've only had wonderful things happen to you." 

I am in pain for Ms. Maynard and her family and friends. I wish to God she had not done what she did to herself.

God only knows if she would have had a miracle and beaten the cancer. It happens.

God only knows if she even just would have had several good years, more than she believed she'd have, with her husband, her friends.

And she's thrown those good possibilities away, for good, now. She gave up, utterly and completely, on God, and on His plan for her. That is the second tragedy, after the loss, no, the throwing away with both hands, of her life.

But unlike liberal Washington Post columnist Richard Cohen  believes, Brittany Maynard did not have courage.

I'm so sorry to speak the painfully obvious but it is the truth and it can't be denied because denying it would only encourage others to do as Brittany did and that may get you your fifteen-minutes of fame and lots of Youtube views or Facebook likes, but only until you're gone for good, never, ever, to smile again.

There are many who reject God, especially if He would allow Brittany (or my mother, or millions of other good, wonderful people) to get cancer or other illnesses and to die horrible deaths.

I used to be one of those, so angry at God for years for allowing my Mom to die that most horrible death of cancer. And it was horrible.

Many years later, I realized one reason that made all the sense in the world to me, though it shone a very harsh light on my own terribly weak nature.

God made some great good come of my Mom's passing, and this fact struck me as clear as if He'd spoken to me Himself, one day. Had she been alive still, I would have never gone to the Rachel's Vineyard retreat, would have never gone public about my abortion regret, would never have blogged on these blogs or done the public speaking I've done, and God knows how many women and men would never have benefited from my witness, as so many have told me over the years.

I would have been too afraid, too mortified, of my Mom knowing. It just wouldn't have ever happened.

And I knew, in the depths my soul at that moment of a-ha dawning, that Mom was more than OK about it, in fact, she was reveling in my realization and my peace about it, realizing it was a part of God's plan, though I could not see it for over a decade. And I knew then that she and my lost daughter Erin Madeline were together, rejoicing that the light had finally gone on in my own noggen.

God's plan, I've come to realize, was also to prepare my Mom for her eternity, to make her worth far more to Him, and I know in my heart that is what happened:

As Oswald Chambers wrote, in his book, "My Utmost for His Highest"
It is a snare to imagine that God wants to make us perfect specimens of what He can do; God's purpose is to make us one with Himself...'It can never be God's will that I should be sick.' If it was God's will to bruise His own Son, why should He not bruise you? ...I am called to live in perfect relation to God so that my life produces a longing after God in other lives, not admiration for myself. Thoughts about myself hinder my usefulness to God. God is not after perfecting me to be a specimen in His show-room; He is getting me to the place where He can use me [for a greater good].

We have the idea that God rewards us for our faith, it may be so in the initial stages; but we do not earn anything by faith, faith brings us into right relationship with God and gives God His opportunity. God has frequently to knock the bottom board out of your order to get you into contact with Himself. God wants you to understand that it is a life of faith, not a life of sentimental enjoyment of His blessings. Your earlier life of faith was narrow and intense, settled around a little sun-spot of experience that had as much of sense as of faith in it, full of light and sweetness; then God withdrew His conscious blessings in order to teach you to walk by faith. You are worth far more to Him now than you were in your days of conscious delight and thrilling testimony.
Whittaker Chambers, in his book "Witness", said it more succinctly, and decades before Mary Tyler Moore:
"True wisdom comes from the overcoming of suffering and sin. All true wisdom is therefore touched with sadness."
Brittany Maynard bought into the lie of far too many in our age: that hers would be a "sensible and admirable" death with dignity.

What, and my Mom didn't die with dignity? Just because she didn't choose to avoid the loss of her hair, the pain, the suffering, the crumbling of her insides?

Saying that Brittany Maynard chose to "die with dignity" insults every person who's ever fought to live through cancer or any illness, and lost that fight. It implies that my Mom was less than dignified in her death.

My Mom was in a coma the last month of her life. We were fortunate to be able to afford a night nurse so that Mom could be in her bed at my parents' home then. I'd drive the two-hour trip each weekend that final year to be with her.

In the middle of that Friday night in March, my sister woke me, saying the nurse said to come down--now. Mom's breathing had changed. The nurse knew. We all sat around her bed, the lights on, telling her, through our tears, that we loved her and would always love her and, one of us added lovingly, gently, it was ok to go, that she'd fought long and hard enough. We didn't know if she could hear us, but we told her anyway.

Then, slowly, she opened her eyes, and without a sound, with calmer breathing, she looked distinctly at each one of us kids and Dad, in turn, loving us and saying goodbye to us with her loving, bright eyes. There was no mistaking this. She hadn't wakened for an entire month. Yet this was her goodbye, her last look of love to us. We held her hands, we gazed back into her eyes, then when she had gazed at each one of us, she closed her eyes again. She looked at peace. She breathed one, two, maybe a few more times, then didn't breathe in again.

It's been almost thirty years, and my loss is as great today as it was at that moment.

Don't tell me my Mom died a less-than-dignified death.

The simple sad truth is that Brittany Maynard could not face the pain, the fear, the disfigurement, the awful possibilities of her brain cancer. She is quoted as having said that her choice would be "less terrifying." She wanted to guarantee that the worst of horrible things never happened to her. She could not overcome the suffering, by fighting and living through it with true dignity even unto a natural death. She clearly chose to avoid the pain. She clearly chose not to be brave. She clearly chose not to be courageous.  

That is not what God intended for her to do, after all, I believe, when He created her.

And this is not what makes civilizations great, this "having that choice" to do as Brittany Maynard did.

It was what makes us less civilized.

I pray for the soul of Brittany Maynard, and for her loved ones, nonetheless.

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Saturday, October 11, 2014

Women Do Die From Legal Abortions, Still

2014 Update on a woman who died in a 2011 botched abortion in Australia.

March 2014, a woman dies after her abortion in a Cleveland abortion clinic; is taken by ambulance out of the clinic, not breathing. Here's the story on who she was.

A N.Y. woman dies from her abortion in Carhart's Maryland abortion clinic in 2013. Here's who she was. (I know with this case, it was reported later that the coroner's report said she died of a "naturally-occurring" phenomenon that could have occurred during childbirth. I have never heard of that phenomenon happening in childbirth, though I suppose it's possible. Then again, famous Connecticut forensic coroner to the stars, Dr. Henry Lee, isn't a real MD-coroner-doctor, either. Most states require the M.D. degree. He's just a PhD in BioChem. JustSaying.) And it would give me small comfort if it were possible, were I her family member.

In 2012, this young woman also died of her abortion. This news article is written by a reporter named Mary Mitchell, who stated that "I still remember the pain of losing two friends during my teenage years. Both teens suffered complications after legal abortions."

It may not be one case a year nowadays, but even if it is, is that even close to acceptable?

For more such truthful if horrific news, click over to the long-running Cemetery of Choice, researched and posted by our longtime friend cdunigan on her Real Choice website, who has stated eloquently for even longer than this blog has been around:
"Each woman died at the hands of somebody who bought into the idea that women and their unborn children are mortal enemies, and that abortion is a solution to women's problems.
"Women deserve better."

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Friday, October 10, 2014

"The Suicide Advisory"

I wonder whatever happened to this?
"The hearing focused on what the courts have called “the suicide advisory”: the statute’s requirement that abortion providers give patients “a description of all known medical risks of the procedure and statistically significant risk factors … including … depression [and] increased risk of suicide ideation and suicide.”
This case is the latest example of how the lower federal courts repeatedly have tied up reasonable abortion regulations for years, preventing the regulations from taking effect, even when there is direct language from prior Supreme Court decisions supporting the purpose of the law."
It turns out that the Supreme Court has, several times in recent years, been stating that women should be advised if something, in this case, having an abortion, might be harmful to their psyches, personally:
"In 1992, the Supreme Court reaffirmed that the states have 'a substantial governmental interest justifying a requirement that a woman be apprised of the health risks of abortion and childbirth. … It cannot be questioned that psychological well-being is a facet of health. … In attempting to ensure that a woman apprehend the full consequences of her decision, the State furthers the legitimate purpose of reducing the risk that a woman may elect an abortion, only to discover later, with devastating psychological consequences, that her decision was not fully informed. If the information the State requires to be made available to the woman is truthful and not misleading, the requirement may be permissible.'
"In 2007, the Supreme Court made it more explicit in its latest abortion case: 'Whether to have an abortion requires a difficult and painful moral decision. While we find no reliable data to measure the phenomenon, it seems unexceptionable to conclude some women come to regret their choice to abort. … Severe depression and loss of esteem can follow. … The State has an interest in ensuring so grave a choice is well informed.'
"The court also reiterated that 'state and federal legislatures [have been given] wide discretion to pass legislation in areas where there is medical and scientific uncertainty.'"
This isn't about laws or legal arguments on abortion, though if anyone wants to beat me to the upshot of these 2012 legal proceedings, I'm all ears (or I'll just DYOR and maybe blog tomorrow as it relates to advising on "truthful" warnings women should benefit from).
This is about the simple news that the highest court in this land believes that women should be told of the possible psychological negatives about having our abortions, not just the possible positives.
We want to know all that detail when it comes to whether our prescription medications, our organic produce, our non-hormone-injected steaks or free-range chickens, are all safe to consume, or that our surgery and anesthesia and hospital care are going to be spot-on.
Why do so many women, and men for that matter, not want to know these details then, when it comes to the medical procedure that is abortion?

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Thursday, October 9, 2014

Italian woman died after taking abortion drug

This occurred this past April, after she took the RU-486 abortion medication under a hospital's care.

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Wednesday, October 8, 2014

"Mama, did you ever want to abort me?”

"Nine years after my first abortion, just three years after the second, I began to have nightmares. I realized my abortions had nearly destroyed my life. I learned that my problems with guilt, low self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, nightmares, and alcohol are actually not uncommon with women who have had abortions.
"...Fortunately, now there are post-abortion support groups that provide a woman with a safe place where she can discover that she is not alone and can deal with her grief, accept forgiveness, and finally forgive herself and others.
"As I began to heal, I realized that not only had the abortions affected me and my life, they had a profound effect on those closest to me – my children and my parents.
"Each of my children handled learning about my abortions differently.
"When my daughter was nine she overheard me talking about my abortions. After the tears came the questions..."

The article is by Karen Cross, who got involved in the "activism" side of the ideological divide about abortion's rightness or wrongness. But that's not why I thought it worth noting. She writes of how her abortions affected her mother, her relationship with her, her children, her whole family.
She also urges folks as we have long urged folks:
"...I would offer a word of caution to my pro-life friends. In your zeal to protect life, please be careful with the words you choose to use.
"There have been more than 55 million abortions in the U.S. since 1973. This means that everywhere you go, there are people who have participated in abortion. They may have had one (or more), paid for one, or maybe they have taken their sister, daughter, or girlfriend for an abortion. In every convention I meet people who are in pain because of abortion. During last week’s 43rd annual convention, I met parents, grandparents, siblings, and friends of babies who were regretfully aborted.
"Very often we hear statistical research about abortion. However we must remember that behind each statistic is a real person – with a family forever changed...We may never know the extent to which abortion has affected our culture. There are millions of women and families who need healing. We must be willing to reach out to them with unconditional love."

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Tuesday, October 7, 2014

"I Have To Abort My Baby" Poems Google Search

Someone found our blog by typing that phrase into Google. This is more of what that person found. This really got me.
  1. "Poem From A Father Regretting Abortion, To My Little Baby My ex girlfriend decided to have an abortion, I did not want this to happen and so I wrote a poem to express my feelings, to say sorry and to tell my baby that I care.  
  2. Abortion Poems-“Mummy is Sorry” - The Siege of Jericho Can an angel enfold my child, in the love that I have...
  3. Poems about Abortion...Mothers who have chosen to abort often face feelings of sorrow, shame, and guilt. ... Many women feel anger for having aborted a child they were told did not yet exist as a .... This poem touches my heart for when I was younger I was forced to abort by ...
  4. My Unborn Love, Abortion Poem As I laid holding my belly, looking at the moon. I realized my baby, that I have fallen in love with you. My son, my daughter, my unborn love. You are a gift sent to ...
  5. Remorse Is Forever, Abortion Poem ‎ So I got the abortion, part of me wanted it, part of me didn't. I hate myself, I could have kept my baby. I was desperate and didn't think of anyone but myself.
  6. I Want My Baby Back... : I Had An Abortion Story and Experience  Friends and family who have revealed their experience with abortion to me made it .... I have an ultrasound picture of my baby and I miss her/he so much. ..... baby but also i found this poem which might help. even though your baby is not here...
I'm working with a new (actually very old, less bells and whistles but works) browser, and the new cut/paste doesn't do what my old browser used to do. So when I cut/paste this, it gave me user ratings and the number of votes for said ratings, like these:

Rating: 4.4 - 433 votes
Rating: 4.4 - 319 votes

That may not seem like a lot, but when these are poems scattered around the Internet, and over 300 or 400 people find them, all on their own from Google searches like these, not from Facebook or Twitter, and put in their two cents that the poems touched them that much, it is a lot.

If some of those poems in those links are too much for anyone right now, skip them.

Just know that there is so much help, unjudgmental, stay-anonymous help, if you're feeling this kind of regret and remorse.

So many hundreds of thousands of us who regret our abortions have sought and found that help. All the sources are linked to in our sidebar at right. Just pick up the phone to any of them toll-free, or find an email buddy or chat-online forum.

It'll all be there, still waiting for you tomorrow and the next day and the next day if you don't call or email any of them now, but you have to make that first contact.

After all, this blog's been around over a decade and we're not going anywhere either. We'll always be up, as a resource for anyone hurting from their abortion, and we don't pass judgment if you don't regret either.

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Monday, October 6, 2014

Some Post-Abortive Women Write Of Their Body-Images

Found this blog, The Shape Of A Mother, which at first made me wonder if it sent the wrong message. But the more I read, I thought its heart is in the right place, and the purpose is worthwhile, to help women avoid or overcome negative stereotypical body consciousness, and to help "the next generation grow up knowing how normal our bodies are." No Bratz dolls, no being down on ourselves, no being uber-focused on being "perfect" (whatever that really is). Some of the contributors seemed to be a little too worried about "losing" their "better" bodies, post-baby or even post-abortion, but overall there are some good reads.

Like "The Life of My Belly", and "How Do You Forgive Yourself?" and others in the Abortion/Life After Abortion category.

And please note: that blog is a tasteful site, run by an average, ordinary-looking mom of two. Please have the respect due her noble intention.

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Sunday, October 5, 2014

Men And Abortion- Some Research

"Men & Abortion: Psychological Effects", a review of scientific and clinical literature as of 2008, by Catherine T. Coyle, RN, PhD., which provides at the end the entire list of 31 research studies reviewed, with synopses of the findings, the sample sizes, methodologies, etc.

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Saturday, October 4, 2014's Abortion Stories

Some women answer the question, "Do you regret you abortion?"

"I wish it wasn't that easy to have an abortion :( "

"Of course I do I regret it every single day"

"I never knew what pain really was until that day."

"It's so hard the word regret can't even describe how bad I feel..."

There are some on that combox who don't regret, but not too many. It isn't a scientific survey, of course. The pro-choice folks often put down the post-abortive regret stories as merely "anecdotal." Like, they don't add up to real or substantial numbers. I imagine that wouldn't happen as much if there was a preponderance of I Don't Regret stories, instead.

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